Facing the Facts so that we get the FUEL for the change we Desire
This may come off a little harsh to some and to be candid it is a little harsh even for me to digest at times but the difference between the top 5% of producers and everyone else is what?? It’s their results….period. We tend to put a huge filter on our reality at times so that we don’t experience the RAW emotions that are the driving force for us to make changes in our lives, but by doing this we are taking fuel off of the fire and the result is that accept the status quo. We look at our bank accounts and there isn’t enough money to take the trip we want or worse we are so excited about Friday because it’s payday and we are out of money. Or we look at the fact that we are only having sex once every 2 weeks thinking that everything is OK in our relationships…. Or perhaps we look in the mirror while brushing our teeth thinking that the extra 30 lb of Fat from bad habits is perfectly normal and that’s “Just the way it is”. Being RAW and real with ourselves can be painful!! When we are able to be REAL and face the facts as they are and then spend time with the emotions that they create, we now have some real energy to make change.
Let’s think about this for a minute….Let’s contrast our internal dialogue with the following FACTS: Zero Savings in the Account and barely enough Money to pay mortgage….. “Well Philip you did have a lot of expenses this past couple weeks and don’t forget you get paid again on Friday”…. OR “Philip you are BROKE and you need to figure out a way to bring in more money NOW, your family deserves it”. Which of these people are going to make changes in their lives to get better results?? The one that faces the FACTS with the RAW emotion it deserves…you should allow the ANGER and FRUSTRATION drive you to find solutions, but when we mask the FACTS by painting our own nice little picture of reasons or excuses we will not take the necessary steps to make changes in our lives.
Once we are REAL and see the facts for what they are, we begin to live in the truth! Do we really SUCK at making money? Do we really STINK at being a husband and father? Do we pretend that we are “BIG BONED” when we are Fat? Great, we are finally being REAL about where we are TODAY…and we now have a real place to grow from. This is the hard part and where most of us don’t like to spend the necessary time, and that is the emotion of it all and how this makes us feel…. it’s PAINFUL! When we admit that we suck at making money, or that we are about a 2/10 as a husband or that we are FAT and have high blood pressure. But remember we are only dealing with who we are TODAY, and this has NO reflection on who we can be 30–60–90 days from this point. The difference between you NOW and in 30–60–90 days is going to be your ACTIONS and BELIEF.
When I set up 90 day targets for myself, I look at the FACTS in all areas of my life and then begin to look out 90 days and envision the New Man that I will become in 90 days that will be different and have more ability than the current version of myself. How much money will I be making? What will my fitness level be? How will my relationships be and what time will I be spending with my family?
Once this future version of myself is identified, it’s time to look at the ACTIONS necessary to learn and improve and grow in the areas that I’ve identified. To simplify this, I look at the 1 single biggest thing that needs to get accomplished each week that will move the needle and this is my important item and get’s priority over all of the other “Stuff” that will be pulling and needing my time and attention.
So be honest and truthful with yourself about the real facts in your life as this is the only way for you to begin to make real changes toward the person you want to become, and this person is whoever you believe yourself to be.
